Posts Tagged ‘communication skills’

On My Own

September 24, 2014

“We’ve done all we can. It’s up to you from now on.”

I reached a point in my recovery where I was released from therapy, either due to completion or insurance coverage limits. Kind of like stepping off the end of a gangplank, unsure of where I might land in the World of Normal. But I cautiously took that step, and rarely looked back. It really was up to me now, with assistance and encouragement from my family and friends.

A roller coaster ride at first, my life eventually leveled out. I continued physical therapy at home, with the aid of a guidebook provided by my therapists, a TENS unit to stimulate the muscles in my affected leg and foot, an AFO for support, a blood pressure monitor, and a diabetic blood test kit.

It was a huge struggle just to get out of bed every morning, much less do the prescribed exercises. I became lightheaded and passed out frequently. I was lost, anxious, and had frequent panic attacks.

I would not have progressed this far without my family. They were my lifeline (literally), my coaches, my critics, my cheerleaders.

But, ultimately, they could only do so much in my journey to recovery. It was up to me to get myself motivated, even through the cloud of frustration, depression and grief.

Through it all I relied on my belief in God and the power of prayer. I was told that while in the hospital ICU, I was administered Last Rites. I was that close.

I remember absolutely nothing of that first week of my hospital stay. My wife never left my side. She was my guardian, my protector, my intermediary with the doctors and hospital staff. My earthly angel.

When I recovered enough to move out of ICU, my therapy began. Simple stuff, like learning how to eat, swallow, walk and talk. Things I used to do without thinking. I was too weak to be embarrassed or regretful. I felt like a human pincushion, when I felt anything at all. Then came awareness, like the world was opening up to me. Sort of like being born again.

It is very difficult to describe the stroke and recovery experience to someone in terms they can understand, especially when I still don’t completely understand it myself.

So, my journey continues, on my own. My advice to those on a similar path? Stay focused. Be patient with yourself. Do everything you possibly can, learn from your mistakes and how to graciously ask for assistance. Adapt what you cannot fully get back; be inventive. Recovery can be a life-long journey, never give up. Believe in yourself, even when no one else does. Celebrate your victories, no matter how small. And most of all, have faith in what you can accomplish when you set your mind to it. Love your family, even when they don’t seem to love you back.

And remember, you are never truly alone on your path to recovery. There is always Someone looking over your shoulder. Rely on that Higher Power.

Slow and steady wins the race.

More information on therapy and rehabilitation after stroke.


Making a Difference

May 15, 2014

Feeling out of touch with your community or the world at large? Happens all too frequently to people who have retired or can no longer work due to disability. Many require ways to stay motivated, to keep engaged with the community and maintain a sense of worth.

Are you looking to create new challenges and set new goals? Volunteerism is an option. It allows you to give back, to contribute to those in need, and feel better about yourself.

Do you have:

  • specific knowledge and life skills? – become a docent, mentor or teacher
  • tech experience? – offer to create and/or maintain a blog or website
  • organizational abilities? – volunteer as a bookkeeper or librarian
  • leadership qualities? – become a scout troop leader
  • D-I-Y savvy? – work for Habitat for Humanity or similar organization
  • a vehicle and able to drive?deliver meals to homebound persons
  • communication skills? – populate phone lines for charities
  • lack mobility? – help organize from home

Locating an opportunity to volunteer in you area may seem daunting. If so, there are organizations that can pair you up with a group that can best use your abilities.

Volunteer Match – provides links between people and causes

Volunteer Guide – make a difference from anywhere at anytime – America’s natural and cultural resources volunteer portal

American Red Cross – volunteer in your local community

United Way – we envision a world where all individuals and families achieve their human potential through education, income stability and healthy lives

Volunteering – doing so will let you help others and make a difference in the world, and in your life as well.